To my children’s birthfamilies

I’ve been meaning to tell you something…

I want you to know that I treasure this child you have entrusted to me.

I value the sacrifice you made in letting them go.

I honor you in my thoughts, my prayers and my words.

I tell Millen that her birthmother was beautiful

and her birthfather was kind and strong.

I tell Noah that he can be grateful to his birthparents for his strong lean body,

his quick mind, and vision so acute it amazes his optometrist.

I tell him that he has a Godly heritage.

I want you to know that when your child has grown into a strong and sturdy adult; when they wish and if you wish, I will help them to find you.

I will not use guilt or fear to hold them to me or keep them from you.

I will encourage them to spend time with you and get to know you. I will be pleased and grateful when together you forge your own relationship, whatever that may be.

Just something I thought you oughtta know.



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34 Responses to To my children’s birthfamilies

  1. 1
    Becky K. says:


    This is beautiful. You are so amazing!

    Becky K.

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    dora says:

    Reading this I was choked up and lost for words.

    There is a God. He works on our hearts like no other.

    May your prayers be fulfilled for the glory of God's name.

    God bless.

  3. 3
    Jenni says:

    Diane, You are making me cry!

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    Blondee says:

    You truly have a Mother's heart to be so open and put what is best for the children first. This is why He chose you to be their Mother.
    God Bless.

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    Terry @ Breathing Grace says:

    This is such a beautiful, beautiful post, Diane!

    Have I said lately how blessed your children are to have you for a mother? If I haven't, let me say it now:

    Your kids are so blessed to have you for a mother!!

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    Jaime Lynn says:

    Why'd you have to make me cry this early in the day? Just sayin' :)

    What a sincere and heartfelt post. Adoption is such a beautiful thing.

    God bless you all.

  7. 7
    Emily says:

    This post has touched my heart! What blessed children to have you as the mother of their heart!

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    Mrs.Rabe says:

    Beautiful, Diane.

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    elena rulli says:

    This is one of the most beautiful and moving things I have ever read. Thank you.

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    Anonymous says:

    That was beautiful..
    My brother, sister and I are adopted. At 43 I found my bio mom and wouldn't call. So one night when my mother was visiting she called her for me. I got to talk to her for 10 minutes. I've never heard from her again. My bio dad doesn't know anything about me. That is all fine with me. I love my mom and dad dearly and dont need anything else.

    You are such a wonderful person. You have been blessed with a heart of gold.

    God Bless you and your kids.♥

  11. 11
    Diane says:

    a ~♥~ and a ☺

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    Barbara H. says:

    This is beautiful. You and your kids are both blessed.

    My sister placed a baby for adoption and it is definitely hard to let go. But her daughter is an adult and married and a part of her life now.

  13. 13
    Lisa says:

    I'm teary-eyed also.

  14. 14
    Love Abounds At Home says:

    Wow! Where is the kleenex….not just one, but the whole box!
    What a blessing you are :)

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    L says:


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    seekingmyLord says:

    Diane, your heart is so amazing to me…so amazing! What a blessing you are!

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    Patricia says:


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    Bonnie says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this today. We had a hard week last week and I so needed this today. My husband and his sister are both adopted. They always knew and his Mum and Dad always spoke so kindly about his birth parents. They are kind now that we know "Mimi." I am so glad that we have such a great example to follow with our children. We thank God everyday for them and for their birth mothers. Thank you for this beautiful reminder.

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    Lady Dorothy says:

    Diane, you are an amazing woman of God. You are blessed. Your children are blessed. Very, very blessed.

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    Anonymous says:

    As an adoptee, I so appreciate your understanding and being willing to (and not threatened by) encourage a relationship between them and their birth families. For now, when I've hinted at the subject, I can tell that my mom is nervous and somewhat hurt, so I haven't done any real searching yet.


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    Sommer says:


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    Diane says:

    your kind words mean so much to me, ladies♥

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    jules1green says:

    Hey there:) This brought tears to my eyes, as I am adopted, and never knew my birth family. I thought your post lovely and inspiring! Thank you for taking the time to share today:)

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    Nabila Grace says:

    I'm sitting here with tears glistening on the edges of my eyes…I just love you! ;o) My mother was adopted and had the blessing of being raised in a Christian home as you are giving Noah and Millen. You have given and are giving them a wealth that has no price! Blessings to you my dear! *hugs* (btw Noah's baby pictures sure do look like my Ayden's when he was little) ;o)

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    Birbitt says:

    I pop in now and then and read your blog. Tonight I popped in and found this post. I can not explain how much those words touch my heart. I do want to say that I think you are one special lady, and your children are beautiful!

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    Laura says:

    This is just so beautiful. You must be the sweetest, kindest, most loving mother on the planet and are such an inspiration! Your children are SO blessed to have you. Okay, now I'm crying and I better go! *Hugs!*

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    Catherine R. says:

    Bless your heart, Diane, really and truly. As someone who could have a child in an adopted home if she had not chosen the darker path, this aspect means a lot to me. Not like I can change anything but still. Hugs to you!

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    Diane says:

    ladies.. you know, one thing that really shaped my thinking on this whole issue was an encounter i had with an older woman who had been adopted in infancy. because the records were so closed back then she had never been able to find even the slightest bit of info on her birth parents. she was very dark complected with thick curly hair and looked very "ethnic" in some way, but had been adopted by an italian-american family. she knew that she had intentionally been placed with them because of her coloring (the thought was that she would blend in, i suppose) but here's the kicker… she was completely uncertain as to her actual race and had no prospect of ever being able to find out. it just seemed such an incredible violation of her human rights somehow, to never have such a basic piece of information about yourself. she was a sweet wonderful woman who deeply loved her family, but not knowing her true race was also a very heartbreaking thing to her.
    i am so grateful that the Lord allowed me to meet her and speak with her as it helped me to understand clearly how important it is to share information and allow connections with an adoptees roots.
    God is good, isn't He?♥

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    Missuz C says:

    Ms. Diane, I often read your blog but seldom comment, but can't help myself on this one. I'm a pasty white (:D) adoptive mom of a beautiful brown-skinned, black haired and black eyed child of obviously different ethnic origin than myself or husband…..and you have expressed my heart for her and her birth parents EXACTLY. I've just never stopped long enough to try to put it down in words…but I couldn't do it better. Our birthmom moved back to her country of origin and I was never able to establish contact with her, although I tried very hard as she had expressed a desire for that as well…..but I am fortunate to have a few photos of her and more info of my child's birth story than most…and I was thrilled to finally find one single piece of information when she was four so that I could positively identify her specific ethnic group! Yeah! I keep working on her lifebook…..we talk of her story often….we try to incorporate aspects of her ethnic culture into our lives….we pray for her birth parents frequently, that wherever they are they will come to know the Lord, so that even if she is not able to meet them in this life that she will be able to in the next. God is awesome. Adoption is a miracle, and miracles are His specialty! Her ethnic "people" are largely unreached by the Gospel…..we pray for that too. Who knows what God has in mind in the big picture?!

    Bless you for your heart of love,
    and thanks for sharing. You really touched my heart. And thanks for letting me share mine.


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    Teresa says:

    Thank you for being so generous to these people. I am in the end of my seventh month of pregnancy, and I am going to give my daughter up for adoption. It is the hardest thing I have ever done up till now, and knowing that I have chosen parents for her who are open to a relationship with me is immensely relieving. I hope so much that your kids will someday get to know their birthparents, because I am fortunate enough that my daughter will know me. Bless you for thinking of this, and I ask that God will allow such things to happen.

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    Diane says:

    oh teresa.. bless your sweet little heart♥ i truly cannot express in words how important and selfless and wonderful this thing is that you are planning on doing… but let me share something with you- i once asked noah what he would say to his birthmother, if he could tell her anything, ask her anything. he said he would tell her thank you. (what can i say? he's a boy of few words, lol) but seriously, he said it with such feeling, such deep emotion that it brought tears to my eyes. i so look forward to the day that he can thank his birthmother himself.

    honey, you'll hear thank-you many times in the days and months to come, mostly from your baby's adoptive parents-to-be. but someday your baby will be a big kid and then an adult and someday he will say thank-you to you too. hang on and wait for it.. because that day will come. I'll be praying for you sweetie♥

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    Sylvia says:

    You have such a beautiful heart. You live your faith. I may never get to see you this side of heaven, but thank you for the privilege of letting me know you in a small way.
    May God bless you and your family always.

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    Princess Jo says:

    So lovely :-)

    Jo (Free Jinger)

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    Anonymous says:

    God bless you and your beautiful family. I am sitting here in tears.

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