I’m thinking of giving up blogging.

No seriously, I am.


It’s not that I don’t love blogging…. I do. I love the process of it. Something happens, or I see something in my home, or I read an especially fascinating bit of something and the chain of thoughts begins. The normal person thinks, “Well now, isn’t that interesting,” and moves along with their day. The blogger, on the other hand, immediately starts to think in terms of layout. Photos. Title. She starts to draw parallels and formulate sentences and paragraphs in her head. Every little daily happening, every little chance encounter, every little revelation of the mind becomes more than just the passing elements of one’s life… it all becomes fodder for this machine we call the blog. We don’t just live life, we analyze it, crystallize it, preserve it and ultimately share so many little slivers of our days. Slivers that would otherwise just fade down into the forgotten. And personally, I love that. O yeah.

It’s not that I don’t love you… all of you, my sister blogger-ettes. In the few years I’ve been blogging, I think I’ve met more fantastic women, more potential Best-Friends-Forevah than I can count. I don’t suppose that’s surprising with the unlimited resources quite literally at my fingertips: search engines and message boards that cater to one’s unique little slice of interest and friends lists and blog carnivals and Etsy and Skype… oh Lordie! Skype! Skype, how I love thee, let me count the ways.

Ahh… but I digress.

I’ve met so many wonderful women, so many dear friends. Or more accurately potential dear friends, because with a few blessed exceptions, I’ve not been able to invest enough to move those relationships from online acquaintance to real friendship. As wonderful as you all are, I’m not able to answer emails as I should. I’m not able to visit all of your blogs and leave comments as I’d like. For heaven’s sake, lately I’ve not even been able to respond to the wonderful, thoughtful, delightful comments you all leave for me here! I don’t like that.

It all just takes so much time. You see, unlike many of you, I am not a fast worker. In fact I could reasonably be referred to as p..o..k..e..y. I take three quarters of an hour to wash the supper dishes. A basket of laundry can take me a half hour to fold (and that’s not counting the ironing.) It’ll take me a week to sew a dress. And hours to write a blog post. I know many of you can whip off fantastic articles in minutes, but not me. You can zip through your library of photos, finding the perfect one in an instant… meanwhile I’m still sittin’ here working on my title. And sometimes while I’m sitting here working out that title there really are other things I should be doing. Sometimes while I’m writing about housekeeping I actually have dirty dishes sitting in my sink. Sometimes I’m putting off my own quiet time in lieu of finding just the right scripture verse to finish off a blog post. eeek, did I really just write that? There have been times I sat at this computer, waxing eloquent over my love for my children… while they sat upstairs on their beds waiting for me to read with them. I don’t really like that all that much. More importantly I don’t think the Lord is terribly thrilled either.

So yeah. I’m thinking of giving up blogging. Or maybe just scaling back to a single post each week. Or maybe once each coupla weeks. Maybe one post a month. Or so. Because, as happy as blogging makes me, clean dishes and studying scripture and reading with my kids pleases me more.

I think it pleases Him more too.

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57 Responses to I’m thinking of giving up blogging.

  1. 1
    Terry @ Breathing Grace says:

    I totally get it, Diane.

    If you do leave, at least keep your email address!

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    vivian says:

    yup.. I've thought that a hundred times myself. its a time eater for sure. but I love it. A lot of girls come on twice a week, once to post something, and once to bloghop and leave comments and to answer emails. Probably a good way to do things. thats what I should do. I really like what you wrote in the beginning comparing non bloggers thoughts about simple daily life things being interesting.. to bloggers who automatically go into planning a post mode!
    lol!
    love ya Diane.. dont stop blogging!
    xoxo

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    Sonia says:

    I'm pokey, too. It can take me hours to do one post, especially if I am writing on something I feel passionately about.

    I understand your feelings. I've had them, too, and have had to step away from the keyboard for extended periods and get my head on straight and reprioritize. I am still blogging, but finding it hard to write about deeper things as I no longer devote as much time to it. You have to do what is best for your relationship with Him and your family, and we understand.

    I hope you are able to stay around, even if it's only once a week. I so enjoy your posts. But that's me being selfish and I know you must think of Him and them first.

    {{Hugs}}

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    sarah beth says:

    I have thought about scaling back too. I have a ridiculously spread out online life and while it's not necessarily bad it takes up a lot of time. I never thought I would be one of "those people" who has a blog, a facebook, an Etsy shop, a youtube channel, a twitter account ahh! I'm glad I can't afford an iphone. I'm thinking of shutting down facebook for awhile, but getting back to youtube(really Hannah has just been busy). So, we'll see. And, thank you for your words of encouragement on my blog, they meant a lot. :)

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    Jenni says:

    Diane, you are a better woman than I am. There are many times that I've felt the same way you do, but I don't do anything about it. I commend you for listening to your convictions. You are a fabulous woman, and a blessing to me. You (and your blog) have ALWAYS been a blessing to me. And if you decide to leave the blogging world, I totally understand. But also know that your blog has blessed so many people. You've brought laughs, tears, and THE MESSAGE to the world. You've been a witness to His Love through this blog. So, that being said, my two cents are….cut down, if you need to, but don't give it up all together. I (and so many others) will miss you and your blessings more than I can say.

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    Emily says:

    I will miss you should you give up posting totally, but I understand what you mean. It's always a struggle, this time and priority thing. If you do post just once a week I will be ever so happy! :) Your blog is a favorite that I enjoy reading when you post!
    Blessings!
    Love,
    Emily

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    Vintage Girl says:

    Diane, there are so many "seasons" in our lives and this may be one of them for you. You are my 1st go to girl when I'm online. I've learned so much, knodded my head in agreement, laughed until I cried, and just plain cried at your inspiring and hearfelt words. I really hope you will check in once in awhile and let us long distance friends know how things are going and if it's not meant to be I'll pop you a line in your inbox from time to time. You are such a wonderful woman who loves her family and the Lord with such conviction and you should follow your heart. Whatever your decision I'm here cheering you on!!Sending love and hugs, Heather

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    Amy Jo says:

    I have to say I would miss knowing about your very interesting life….so maybe you could just scale back:)

    Blessings,
    Amy Jo

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    Barbara H. says:

    I would be sorry to see you go, but I do understand priorities. Hopefully you'll see your way clear to just scaling back rather than giving it up altogether.

    For the record, I am not very fast, either. I type primarily with two fingers. I just have one at home who is older, so it's different from having a houseful of younger ones, but I do wrestle with being faithful at home while my hard-working husband is out providing for us rather than spending so much of my day on the computer. He supports my blogging, but I do wrestle with keeping computing in balance with the rest of life.

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    Sara says:

    I just want you to know this, then: Your blog drew me to seek God.

  11. 11
    Ann says:

    ***zing***
    Wow.
    Dear Lady, as much as I would miss reading your wonderful slivers of life, I admit that I am with you 100%, as always :-)
    God bless you dear one!
    Much love,
    Ann

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    TMichelle says:

    When I first read your title, I thought "nooooo". Then I remembered that I was giving my own blog one more week until I made the final decision to sign off as well. I totally understand and agree with your reasoning and I will miss you. Your blog has consistently been a spot of sunshine in my morning.

    May God bless you and keep you.

  13. 13
    seekingmyLord says:

    Well, Diane, selfishly I would not like for you to give up blogging and yet as a homeschooling mama and friend I completely understand.

    I am not fast at blogging either, mostly because I edit and edit and edit some more! I have been convicted over the fact that I will be blogging about the very child I am not spending time with many a time in the last few months–even being a bit upset with her for asking for help when I am looking for a photo! (Very BAD homeschooling mama!)–but I have cut back on my actual computer time, which is bettering my attitude. It has almost been a blessing that I have had a little problem with my hands, which I was told is from too much typing but is not carpal tunnel syndrome. Just a little reminder of enough is enough (and time to do simple hand exercises with a rubber band).

    Just one thought though…I thought a great deal about giving it up recently myself–I mean, when does it end? Yet, blogging has real worth to me because I can look back and see the things we did and where my thoughts were. My daughter reads my blogs and will have a keepsake of my memories. I back up my blog just to be sure she will have this, but it does take up considerable storage space.

    One more thought, although it is very sweet of you, you do not really have to respond to every single comment. I do not feel slighted in the least when I comment on other blogs and do not get a response. You know you can change your expectations about blogging so that there is a better balance in your life.

    (You and I so need to Skype though and my husband loaned me his power source so that I can this week after all.)

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    Anonymous says:

    HI – please don't take down your website, even if you need to write less so you can concentrate more on other priorities. I understand, and have struggled with some of the same issues. But I have just discovered you and haven't had time to enjoy all the fruits of your site yet. Maybe you could just write less often? As the Lord leads. In Him, CJ

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    Kristine says:

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    Trina says:

    Diane, I think every blogger goes through times where they analyze their blog and whether the time commitment is worth it, and try to find balance in it. I do hope that your search does not leave us without at least an occasional glimpse into your sweet heart. But I also hope it frees you to deepen the relationships you have forged here (like, of course, visiting me!)
    Fondly,
    Trina

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    Anonymous says:

    You are such a dear.

    I'm beginning to wonder if blogging isn't a bit like politics: Many of the best people slip back to their lives in order to stay true to themselves. But the interwebs–and politics–are diminished by the loss.

    I hope you'll pop in once in a while. You're blog makes my day nicer.

    /this carefully crafted comment is why I don't have a blog :-P

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    Anonymous says:

    Hi – I wanted to sign up for your blog but didn't see how to – can you tell me how please? Please don't post my address publicly – I don't want to generate spam! Thanks. If you can't see my address, maybe you could just add something to your blog that tells how to sign up.

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    Beautifully Veiled says:

    I am right with you sister. It has been over a month since I last blogged, I think…… So I'll check in every so often, and will be glad that you are getting everything done you need to. And hopefully I will too!!!!
    Blessings,
    Linda in GA

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    Anonymous says:

    Yes, Diane, it will. I am a newer reader to your blog, & have enjoyed wandering around a little, becoming acquainted with the bits & pieces of your life you share with us; your children & their ups & downs. Baking. Sewing. And a hundred other things that go into making a good home.

    But, there is less enjoyment of that FOR YOU if you feel compelled to report it constantly. And your family needs you, in real time.

    Whether you break for a short spell, or permanently, I pray it will be what's right & best for you & yours.

    God's blessings-
    Brenda

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    Terri says:

    I think the Lord wants you to give us the snippets of your wise advice, your joy of the simple pleasures, your sweet thoughts and your organizational skills. However, I do understand that you want your life back and time spent with your children is so precious. I hope you will try to stand online….I look forward every day to checking to see if you have posted.

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    Anonymous says:

    You would be sorely missed by all. You bring a lot of happiness to us with your sharing and very often make us all pause and think about our own lives. I would love it if you could see your way to writing once a week. Your blog is the first thing I look for each morning. But you have to do what the Lord calls you to do and we will all respect your final decision.

    Debbie

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    Sommer says:

    Oh I know how you feel! I so enjoy blogging, but I am also "pokey" about everything and the temptation to sit here instead of getting up and attending to what should be done…well it is so great!

    I'd miss your blogs…you are inspiring and just so fun to read. It is like we are sitting over coffee and chatting. But I totally understand and admire you all the more for acknowledging your struggle!

    I only blog about once or twice a month. It works…but I find other things to wittle time away…for shame on me. Perhaps once a month would work for you too!

    Either way, love you Diane and hope that we continue to be friends one way or the other.

    Lots of love,
    Sommer

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    Mama Sewing says:

    Now you know why I stopped — always took much of my time and thoughts. Then I had to stop looking at other peoples blogs everyday.
    Now I check in on my blog list occasionally and try not to think of all the great things I missed. And think of all the things I am doing instead!!!! ;)

  25. 25
    Lisa says:

    I know EXACTLY what you mean, Diane!

  26. 26
    multiplemom says:

    Scaling back = good.
    Completely stopping = Sad, Sad, SAD world.

  27. 27
    Martie says:

    I am sad. Soooo sooooo sad. I don't want you to leave blogging. But, I do understand. I understand the pull for blogging and responsibilities. Wish there was a way to do both. Sometimes it just is not possible. Please don't leave without saying goodbye. You are a dear friend in blog land and I hope you are able to find a way to stay. Thanks for your blog, though, it is an encouragment to me. :)

  28. 28
    Anonymous says:

    please don't! even if you blog just once a month It would be better! A very lonely person over here would have no one to pretend to be friends with! :^(

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    Christie says:

    We would miss you terribly! In fact, I noticed that after your blogging break, the posts just didn't come as often as they used to!

    Thankfully, though, I found this thing called iGoogle and I have added all my favorite blogs to it so I can glance over the page and see quickly who has a new post and who doesn't.

    All that means is – I can keep you on my iGoogle, and whenever you have a new post, I'll know to come visit! So I won't miss the occasional post (well, I will miss not having the more-frequent posts that SO made me wish you and I shared a fence!) but if you do just scale it down rather than quit, I'll still be able to visit when you have your door open, the tea ready, and the cakes on the table. :)

    Christie in Pensacola, FL

  30. 30
    Janel says:

    Amen. It's a battle to be sure. That's why I gave up blogging after my auto accident 3 years ago. That's why I'm still not back to blogging regularly. With my brain injury, it takes days to write a post. Vexing. (Not that I was ever a speed demon to begin with either…)

    You'll do the right thing. : ) {{hugs}} and praying for you!!

  31. 31
    hillbilly_hickette says:

    i'm sad that you are thinking of leaving us because your sunshine in my day, but i totally get what you mean about Scripture and your kids. i hope you post every now and again as i will check often lol best of "luck" in all your happenings

  32. 32
    Bonnie says:

    I feel your pain sister! But I hope you don't disappear all together. Tomato Soup Cake is a little slice of heaven for me. Once a fortnight or once a month would be okay. :-)

  33. 33
    JMOMB says:

    I would really not like to see you go BUT I do understand your desire to have balance in your personal and professional life.

  34. 34
    Beverly says:

    I will say, I would miss you, if you discontinued blogging!! I think over time, I have only left a couple of comments on your blog, but I do enjoy reading about your life. I don't have a blog. It seems I don't have enough interesting information to fill a blog. I also have imagined it would take a lot of time for a blog, like you say….finding just the right photo or scripture verse. In mentioning scripture, I have ALWAYS enjoyed your shared scripture verses. Each one, seemingly, just for me. I love how our Father works that way, through His children. Perhaps selfishly, may I encourage you to consider cutting back, as you say, and not stop blogging entirely? Maybe you need a "blog vacation" for a period of time and then a reduced number of blogs per month, or so, after that "vacation". I will pray our Lord will show you what he has in mind for you, and your blog. God's richest blessings to you and your children. Also, I want to say a big "thank you" for investing as you have, in your blog. It is evident you have a love for our Lord and choose to please Him, with your life.
    Beverly

  35. 35
    Anonymous says:

    Good for you! As much as I enjoy reading what your blog has, I agree ones time can be spent doing far more eternal things. Enjoy!

  36. 36
    Diane says:

    can i just say how much i appreciate these comments? the perfect balance, of "yeah hon, we understand! do what you gotta do." and "we'll miss yoooo!" i love you gals♥

    I'll probably still be posting once a week, or once every coupla weeks… with maybe an "easy" post thrown in there from time to time just cuz I wanna. I actually have an idea of what I'll be posting next week… and can I tell you how inexpressibly wonderful it is to feel this long week stretching out in front of me? and to know that I can take my time writing.. a little bit here and a little bit there, with no obligation and no pressure? sigh…. ☺

    and now, i wanna make one thing crystal clear… one of the reasons i am cutting way back is so that i can invest more fully in some of the friendships that have started here. so feel free to get in touch with me (I'm so hoping you will♥) And little Miss anon-of-comment-#28.. this goes quadruple for you! Let's not pretend to be friends.. let's be friends for real:-D

  37. 37
    Andrea says:

    Wow! It seems you are well agreed with. Me too, me too! You have written exactly how I feel. That we need to live our lives and not go through the process you described. If you decide to stay, you probably should discipline yourself to a schedule, not checking in every day. And, when you do, think of it as a social visit to a neighbor. That way, you will keep your family duties in check. God Bless!

  38. 38
    smoore2213 says:

    I too would miss you–but I am of the quality, not quantity mindset. A post or two a week is a good balance, and especially one that makes me think or smile.

    And personally I would really like to be friends with you too. :-) In fact I think I might be headed your way again in a week or two…

    Love you. :-)

  39. 39
    Elizabeth says:

    Wherever or whenever your inspiration leads you, know I appreciate and enjoy my time with you. I understand the balance of what you can, should and want to do. I dont blog, but heaven knows, I read. See how late I am catching up? That would be the ret of my life requiring attention. I admire your perspective and if and when you can, I'll be by.

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    Anonymous says:

    Diane, I'm with the others. I look at your blog first thing in the morning. It has such a homey, safe, accepting, loving feel to it. It's like being welcomed into a dear friend's warm house on a freezing cold day and being offered a cup of hot chocolate. I could go on and on but I hope you will continue to blog once a week so I can bask in your sunshine.

    Nancy

  41. 41
    Diane says:

    sara of the June 13, 2011 11:22 AM comment… i do hope you'll email me♥

    lots of love to the rest of you… i'm off now for a cup of coffee, a raspberry-chocolate filled beignet (page 199 in the 5 minute bread book☺) and then it's time to catch up on my ironing! hope each of you have an equally wonderful morning♥

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    Anonymous says:

    Your blog is the first one I look to as well, often the only one. I too am a single (but legally married) mom. Your blog offers me hope, inspiraton, and encouragement that I have not been able to find in other places. Perhaps if you look on your blog as a ministry that reaches many of us in need you will realize what an impact your faith and your words have on others. I know you have impacted me. I offer to you my sincere thanks for a job very well done!

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    Diane says:

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    Diane says:

    anon… there's not that many of us "single (but legally married) moms" out there, that's for sure! ((hugs)) and thanks so very much for the kind words. i so appreciate what you said about the blog being a ministry… you know i am of the conviction that everything we do has eternal consequences and hopefully eternal value. everything we do is our ministry… even a silly thing like blogging;-}

    i will keep posting every week or so… maybe sometimes a bit more frequently, sometimes a bit less. i just need to step back from the pressure of almost everyday posting. after all, if i'm not takin' care of bizness, then i'm not really living with integrity and what i'd have to say would be meaningless anyway♥

    one thing i am hoping to do is get around to all of your blogs, spend some time visiting and leaving comments.. paying back some of the love you all have given me♥ and those of you who don't blog, i'd love to be friendly with you too.. so email me if you feel the same. for realz:-D

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    AwaydownSouth says:

    I understand cutting back though I enjoy your blog.

  46. 46
    Judy says:

    Oh, Diane, I have learned so much from your blog and it is the first one on my list that I read. It was through your blog that I discovered the many delicious vintage dress patterns on ebay. It was through your blog that I learned how easy it is to make artisan bread in five minutes a day. It was on your blog that I was so moved by how good God is to us. I would love to see you keep blogging as time and energy permits. You are such an encourager! I think that must be your spiritual gift.

  47. 47
    Anonymous says:

    Whew! so glad to hear you won't be stopping altogether!!

    Sally

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    Lisa says:

    I'm sure you'll be doing the right thing. Since it's been such an inspiration to so many, it would be foolish to give it up entirely. As you said, every couple of weeks would allow you some peace. Blessings to you!!

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    Melinda says:

    Diane, I love reading your blog and would miss it very much if you completely quit blogging. I got tickled about your description of the way bloggers write in their heads. I do this all the time and don't even have a blog yet, but I've been thinking about ite. I hope you will find the time to post a little, anyway. I love reading here. I feel like I know you and I am looking forward to the day when we will really know one another.

    Melinda

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    Anonymous says:

    Oh my dear–cut back, by all means, if you must, but don't cut out altogether! I would miss my visits to your cozy little corner of the webisphere.

    Your blog has touched me in ways so many others haven't.

    <3,
    Hane

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    Serena says:

    I hope, selfishly, that you don't, but I understand your reasons. It takes me forever to compose a post–especially with pictures! Maybe just once a month or so? To keep all of us Soup lovers from being completely cut off?

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    Courtney's Musings says:

    This is one of the very reasons I am a sporadic blogger at best. I found it was taking too much time away, and yet I didn't feel like it was time to pull the plug on my blog so now I just blog when I have a chance and there is something I think would be interesting to others.

    Thanks so much for sharing your little slice of life. I love visiting! :D

  53. 53
    lovehisname says:

    What? No way, but if you must….
    I love your writing, and I love your blog. But, I know how much you value your time. Time with God, family, and your home.
    We can always text right?
    Love ya!!!!!

  54. 54
    Beth says:

    Well, of course I think you should do what God has asked you to do. I hope He tells you just to scale back a little. You have been a wonderful influence in my life and I love you dearly, think of you often, even though I have never really met you in person.
    Sending love and prayers your way…Beth

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    Ashley Dumas says:

    the last post was me Ashley, not my Mom : 0

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    Sharon says:

    Found this post from a comment you left on Sarah Mae's webpage. I so struggle with the amount of time I spend online. Not only on my own blog, but reading other blogs, entering giveaways etc. I agree that it makes God (and my family) a lot happier when I focus on them vs my blog. I had to laugh about blogging about keeping house while your house is not, um, kept! That is so me!

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    Erin says:

    I’m so glad you didn’t give up blogging completely, Diane! It’s been a slow week around our home, so I’ve been enjoying reading through your archives. I found you through Trina (an online friend who became an in-real-life friend). Would love to maybe meet up one day. We live just east of Rochester. Was thrilled when I discovered you could be an online turned in-real-life friend too! :]

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